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Narcissist's Autistic And Dereistic Thinking ( Enactivism Exceptions)

Uploaded 6/15/2023, approx. 13 minute read

Everyone and her mother-in-law are now experts on cluster B personality disorders.

It's all the rage. It's a money spinner.

So here's a message to these self-styled experts.

Autistic thinking is not the same.

Repeat, not the same as autism spectrum disorder or more generally autism.

Autistic thinking has little to do with autism despite the label.

Here's a piece of free advice.

I usually charge €500 an hour and here I'm giving it to you for free.

Go and actually study psychology under Professor Sandaknin preferably.

Or much easier and much more pleasant, watch this video to the end and you will be enlightened and educated and edified about autistic thinking and Dereistic thinking.

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Okay, first of all, my name is Sandaknin. I'm the author of Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited. I'm a former visiting professor of psychology in Southern Federal University. It was Tovondan, a Russian Federation I left when the war started. And I'm a long time faculty member in CIAPS, Commonwealth for International Advanced Professional Studies in Toronto, Canada, Cambridge, United Kingdom and an outreach campus in Lagos, Nigeria.

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As I promised, today we're going to discuss a very fascinating topic, autistic and de-reistic thinking.

But before we go there, I want to mention a school of thought known as activism.

An activism is the proposition that minds arise and take shape through the precarious, self-creating, self-sustaining, adaptive activities of living creatures.

Living creatures regulate themselves by interacting with features of the environment.

The insights of an activism went into my recent IPAM model, intra-psychic activation model.

There's a video on my channel dedicated to IPAM and there are already a few papers published in academic journals about IPAM.

So, an activism is a part of IPAM because it recognizes that the minds of creatures are the outcomes of regulatory or self-regulatory activities in the environment.

Now, the term inaction was first introduced in a book called The Embodied Mind co-authored by Varela, Thompson and Roche and published in 1991.

At the time, the authors defined cognition as an action and they defined an action as the bringing forth of domains of significance through orgasmic activity that has been in self-condition by a history of interactions between an organism and his environment.

Mentality, never mind how complex, never mind how sophisticated. Yes, even my mentality has to do with living beings dynamically interacting with their environment.

From the activist perspective, minds cannot be described unless you specify all these interactions because they are at the heart of mentality and mentalizing in all their forms.

Now, this leads directly to autistic, interistic thinking because these two types of cognitions are actually divorced from the environment and fly in the face of an activism.

Have fun, Jeladim, the Jeladot. Look it up.

Autistic thinking, also known as de-aristic thinking, is the topic of today's video.

And what qualifies me to hacktor and preach and chastise and castigate all the plagiarists and self-styled experts out there? My credentials.

My name is Sam Vaknin. I am the author of the first book on narcissistic abuse, Malignant Self-Love: Narcissism Revisited, first published in 1999 when the dinosaurs roamed the earth. I'm also a former visiting professor of psychology in a southern federal university in Rostov-on-Don, Russian Federation. And I am a long-term member of the faculty of SIAS-CIAPS, Commonwealth for International Advanced Professional Studies, with offices in Toronto, Canada, Cambridge, United Kingdom and an outreach campus in Lagos, Nigeria.

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Okay, Neshamot. Look it up. Let us delve right in. Enough with the nonsense, Vaknin. Let us delve right in and discuss autistic and de-aristic thinking.

Autistic and de-aristic thinking are ways of relating to reality, to personal experience, to logic itself and to other people, interpersonal relating.

Autistic and de-aristic thinking are fantasy infused, based on fantasy.

However, they are technically speaking or clinically speaking cognitions.

Theoryism and autistic thinking, as the name implies, deal with thoughts, with cognitions.

But these cognitions are somehow distorted. These are cognitive distortions.

The autistic thinking is narcissistic and egocentric, self-centered and self-absorbed. That's autistic thinking.

De-aristic thinking is totally fantastic. It revolves around fantasy and daydreaming. It is divorced from reality. It involves impaired reality testing.

Both autistic and de-aristic thinking are self-referential. They cause the individual to withdraw from the world and to focus upon oneself to the exclusion of all others, everything else, and even the logic, order and structure that rule the universe.

So these patients have illogical and idiosyncratic cognitions. Their thinking is very bizarre to the point that often they are misdiagnosed as schizotypal.

But the thinking or, I mean, autistic thinking and de-aristic thinking derive from an overarching and all-pervasive daydreaming or fantasy life.

In other words, they are not isolated figments or mechanisms that are not integrated well into other psychodynamics. They form a part and parcel and very often the pivot or the axis of the total mental world psychological universe, inner landscape of the person involved.

Cognitions in this case, de-aristic conditions, cognitions, autistic cognitions actually form the internal universe of the patient so that everything becomes suffused with fantasy, dreams, highly unusual, very specific and unique to the individual thinking, idiosyncratic thinking.

There is stereotypical or concrete thinking, a defiance of logic and an inability to relate to other people as if they were real.

Of course, if you deny reality, also deny the reality of other people with the exception of plagiarists out there.


Okay, Shoshanim. So we have a patient. He is illogical. He is odd. He is weird. He misinterprets his own experience in ways which are delusional or strange.

He has a very poor interface with reality. He misjudges reality.

And we have this kind of patient and they infuse people and events around them with completely subjective meanings.

It is on the thin line with psychosis actually because there are strong elements of hyper-reflexivity and the usual confusion between internal and external objects.

This patient regards the external world as an extension or projection of the internal one.

Such patients often withdraw completely. They retreat into an inner private realm, unavailable to communicate and to interact with others.

This is very common in specific phases of the narcissistic cycle, for example, the schizoid phase.

And so there is a close affinity between narcissism and autism mediated via autistic thinking.

The narcissist is the only clinical case who engages in both autistic thinking and de-realistic thinking, depending on the phase in the cycle.

Some narcissists are like a compendium of these types of counterfactual, unrealistic modes of thought and relating to the environment.

People with autism spectrum disorder, they engage in autistic thinking.

Narcissists, as I said, engage in autistic thinking and de-realistic thinking.

But autistic and de-realistic thinking are not limited to these mental disorders.

If we were to consider the belief in God and other supernatural beings as a form of delusional disorder, a much psychogenic illness, the way I do, that's how I regard this idiotic nonsense.

Well, these are mentally ill people, religious people are mentally ill, and some of them, not all of them, can easily degenerate into autistic and de-realistic thinking.

For example, many of them believe that God himself is taking care of them specifically, personally, individually, monitors them, micromanages their lives and rewards them or punishes them according to their behavior or misconduct.

This is delusional, autistic, de-realistic thinking, self-absorbed and divorced from reality.

So we have an example of socially acceptable delusions which actually involve de-realistic and autistic thinking.

Similarly, paranoia, paranoid ideation, is a form of narcissism. It's grandiose.

The paranoid believes that he's at the center of some malign attention, malevolent conspiracy. He is so important that everyone is out to get him, to take him down.

So the paranoid engages in autistic and de-realistic thinking as well.


What I'm trying to say is that autistic and de-realistic thinking are crucial components of many mental illnesses and also many mentally ill but socially condoned behaviors.

Not only religion, political movements such as Nazism, for example, or communism, they engaged in autistic and de-realistic thinking.

It's an exceedingly dangerous phenomenon and one of the main tasks in therapy, in psychotherapy, is to negate or to confront and to ameliorate and to subdue and to suppress autistic and de-realistic thinking by somehow confronting them with countervailing information, data and evidence.

This is precisely what is done, what we do in cognitive behavioral therapy.

I'm not a therapist, I'm a counselor, but this is what is done in CBT.

So autistic and de-realistic thinking, if you go one level down and if you accept that emotions are a subspecies of cognitions, then of course autistic and de-realistic thinking would affect emotions as well.

More precisely, access to emotions. Autistic and de-realistic thinking would deny the patient access to his emotions because emotions would be perceived as out there, external, part of reality.

And so there will be a gap or a chasm or a schism, an internal fragmentation of the patient where, for example, the narcissist cannot access positive emotions and is left only with negative affectivity.

Access to emotions is totally denied in the case of the psychopath and in the case of the borderline there's emotional dysregulation, which is also a direct outcome of misjudging her emotions, weighing them improperly, again involving autistic and de-realistic thinking.

It's a much neglected field and could be the key for future advances in the study and treatment of claustrophobic personality disorders, hopefully not by self-styled experts, their mothers-in-law and other plagiarists.

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