Vaknin Talks

Decathexis: When YOU are No Longer Useful (Psychopath’s, Narcissist's Transactional Relationships)

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the predictability of narcissistic behavior and provides two rules to understand and predict their actions: optimized allocation of resources and resentment when forced to act. He explains that narcissists view relationships as transactions and are only interested in others if they can provide something of value. Once the utility of a person is over, the narcissist abruptly drops them. This transactional approach to relationships and the lack of emotional investment makes narcissists and psychopaths unpredictable and unreliable partners.

Posted on 4/17/2024, 17 minute read

Malignant Covert Narcissist Becomes Primary Psychopath to Compensate for Collapse

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the concept of malignant covert narcissism, a compensatory state that arises from the collapse of overt narcissism. He explains that covert narcissists develop a second layer of compensation, which is the malignancy, to counteract their feelings of inferiority and inadequacy. This malignancy is characterized by psychopathy, sadism, and auto-erotism, and it is more pronounced in covert narcissism than in overt narcissism. Vaknin suggests that malignant covert narcissism may be more common than previously thought and poses a greater danger to society due to its covert and invasive nature.

Posted on 4/16/2024, 29 minute read

We are Rich People's Slaves, Neo-feudalism (Euro College, North Macedonia)

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the problematic nature of capitalism, which has been recognized for over a thousand years. He argues that capitalism is inherently anti-social institutions and that it is a zero-sum game, benefiting the rich at the expense of the poor. Vaknin predicts a future of neo-feudalism, characterized by low social mobility, hereditary wealth, and the dominance of politics over economics. He also suggests that the rich, despite not coordinating their actions, will act in a concerted fashion to maintain their wealth and power.

Posted on 4/14/2024, 47 minute read

Psychopath’s “Karma” Confirmed in Study (Patrick’s Triarchic Model, Hyperarousal)

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the link between psychopathy and anxiety, emphasizing that psychopathy is a condition of hyperarousal and overreactivity to anxiety and fear. He introduces a recent study on the personal cost of psychopathy, which examines the impacts of psychopathic traits on internalizing and life satisfaction. The study finds that disinhibition is the most impairing trait, while boldness varies in its effects and meanness is primarily related to interpersonal difficulties. Vaknin highlights the complexity and nuance of psychopathy, challenging the notion of psychopaths as purely bad and emphasizing the need for further research and understanding of the condition.

Posted on 4/13/2024, 31 minute read

TEST YOURSELF: Shadow's Complexes - Which Ones Have YOU Got?

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses various psychological complexes, including the Martyr complex, Persecution complex, Brother-Sister complex, Casanova complex, Don Juan complex, God complex, Guilt complex, Hero or Saviour complex, Inferiority complex, Oedipus complex, Electra complex, Parental complex, and Romulus and Remus complexes. He explains the origins and characteristics of each complex, linking them to childhood experiences and psychological issues. Vaknin emphasizes that it is rare to find someone without any complex and encourages the audience to identify the complex that is most typical of them.

Posted on 4/12/2024, 11 minute read

Complexes: Your Shadow’s Double Bind (Internal Rhetoric)

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the constant dialogue and conflict within the psyche, leading to a state of double bind. He explains the concepts of complexes and shadow in Jung's work, emphasizing their role as organizing principles in the inner psyche. Vaknin delves into the nature of double bind, the conditions for its existence, and its impact on mental health. He also explores the relationship between complexes, archetypes, and the unconscious, highlighting their influence on memory, identity, and behavior. Vaknin concludes by proposing that the psyche is in a constant state of dialogue and conflict, leading to the emergence of specific complexes.

Posted on 4/11/2024, 43 minute read

MD (Most Dangerous) Narcissists of All: Medical Doctors, Physicians

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the dangers of narcissistic medical doctors and physicians. He explains that narcissistic doctors are overrepresented in the medical profession and are prone to cognitive distortions and behavioral dysfunctions that can harm patients. These doctors consider themselves infallible, confabulate, resist learning, and are hyper-vigilant and vindictive. Vaknin advises patients to seek multiple opinions, rely on common sense and intuition, and choose evidence-based practices. He also warns against the dangers of trusting narcissistic doctors and emphasizes the importance of being assertive and thorough in seeking medical care.

Posted on 4/10/2024, 24 minute read

Widow/er Narcissist: Your Inconsiderate Death, Bad Mother!

In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the narcissist's reaction to the death of a significant person in their life, such as a partner or a friend. He explains that the narcissist reacts with entitlement, a belief in their own immortality, and a sense of betrayal and abandonment. The narcissist's reaction is compared to that of an infant's temper tantrum and is rooted in their need for external regulation and a search for a "good enough mother." Vaknin also delves into the impact of the death on the narcissist's psyche, including feelings of shame and potential regression to borderline-like behaviors or even psychosis. He concludes by suggesting that the best course of action is to move on and cut off contact with the narcissist.

Posted on 4/9/2024, 16 minute read

Sam Vaknin in Shorts (Narcissistic Pearls)

Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the anxiety caused by having too many choices and the dislike people have for choice as it makes them feel disempowered. He also talks about the risks of love and time, and how they enrich and reward us. Vaknin emphasizes the importance of self-improvement for oneself and the futility of trying to change outcomes by gaining knowledge. He also explains the concept of self-gaslighting, where people defend their comfort zone and distort information to maintain their worldview.

Posted on 4/8/2024, 2 minute read

Bleeding Edge Narcissism Info - see DESCRIPTION (With Conor Ryan, Eyes Wide Open)

In this lecture, Professor Sam Vaknin discusses the complexities of pathological narcissism, including the debate over what constitutes a narcissist and the differences between overt and covert narcissism. He emphasizes the importance of reconciling the views of clinicians and theoreticians and highlights the fluidity and complexity of personality disorders. Vaknin also addresses the contagious nature of narcissism and the challenges of managing and healing from narcissistic abuse. He provides insights into the body language and manipulative tactics of narcissists and offers strategies for dealing with them. Additionally, he delves into the ethical considerations of victimhood and the potential for change in narcissistic individuals.

Posted on 4/7/2024, 1 hour 13 minute read

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