Words which Describe the Narcissist (ADD YOUR OWN!) | Vaknin Talks

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My name is Sam Vaknin, I am the author of Malignant Self-Love, Narcissism Revisited.

Socila, fake, artificial, superficial. Weird, strange, eccentric, unfriendly, schizoid, reckless, hermit. Ofkiltal, aloof, indifferent, unfeeling, heartless. Boisterous, gregarious, attention-seeking, imposing, over-winning, dominant, alpha. Self-centered, egotistical, solipsistic.

Malignant, poisonous, venomous, insidious, pernicious, ambitious, driven, relentless, ruthless, callous, tiring, depleting, energy vampire. Duplicitous, liar, confabulator, dissimulator, frightening, threatening, unpredictable, ominous, miniatures, raging, angry, furious. Disempathic, abusive, harsh, uncompromising, violent, cold-blooded, cold-hearted, merciless, penetrating and sometimes clueless. This is a very partial list of course.

You are encouraged to add your own words to the comments section below.

Finally, I may make another video with a compilation of your own contributions. Be well.

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