Cerebral Narcissist's Proud Asexuality (ENGLISH responses)

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The Well, Tantra is not exactly asexual. It's just a non-orgasmic.

But these are very, very interesting questions.

The cerebral's asexuality starts as an accident, in effect.

The cerebral focuses on his intellectual endowments, on his ability to analyze things, on his synoptic view of things, on his ability to synthesize various insights.

And he discovers, early on as a child, that his intellect or his intelligence gets him attention, Ghana's attention, especially from adults, which is very gratifying to the child.

He even discovers that his intellect gives him power over adults, respect, awe, and so on.

This is an irresistible proposition, almost a drug, which the child cannot resist.

And remember that narcissists get fixated at that stage.

So he comes to be nine.

By age nine, he had discovered that his outstanding intellect gets him attention and other goodies from adults, and then he freezes.

He doesn't continue to develop and say, well, okay, it's only one dimension of life, there are other dimensions, all this is missing.

He just froze at that second for the rest of his life.

And so the only lesson he gets from life is, if I use my intellect, I'm going to get attention, respect, obedience.

So this is the lesson, and the only lesson he has.

Nothing can be, no other function in his life, and no other dimension of his functioning, can ever be as good or reach the level of his intelligence.

He cannot fix things at home on the level of his intelligence, and he cannot have sex with someone, a woman or a man, never mind, which will reach the levels of his intelligence.

His intelligence is so perfect, such a well-honed instrument, so brilliant, so pyrotechnic, so technicolor, so amazing, so peacocktail, that it's extremely difficult to match it.

We have a tendency in life to repeat what we are good at, and to avoid what we are not good at.

I keep telling people, for example, you fail all the time because you're very good at failing.

You're an expert at failing.

We all do what we are good at, and if we fail all the time, we're very good at failing, and we will continue to do this, because we are a success at failing.

And so the same with the narcissist. He is very good at intellectual pursuits.

Why would he try anything else?

He has no incentive, he has a disincentive to try anything else, because if he tries anything else, it will contrast very sharply with what he is good at.

So it starts like this.

It starts by narcissists gravitating towards the preference of excellence.

Narcissist actually seeks excellence, which is a very good trait, you know?

But he is a radical, he is an extreme.

He seeks excellence but refuses to compromise.

So he goes through a process called constriction.

Constriction is when your life becomes more and more and more and more and more narrow, more constricted, more restricted, because you are a perfectionist, because you refuse to compromise, you refuse to accept the gray shades of the world.

It's not black and white, and this is called dichotomous thinking.

Now the reason the narcissist has dichotomous thinking, he refuses to accept gray shades.

It's everything good or bad, excellent or zero, you know?

He has dichotomous thinking because he is stuck in childhood, and children have something called splitting.

Splitting is a defense mechanism.

And splitting is when we think of the world in black and white.

Every person is totally good or totally bad. Every situation is totally acceptable, totally unacceptable.

Or I am 100% at what I do, or I don't do it.

So this is splitting, and the narcissist splits all the time because he is stuck as a child.

When we grow up and become adults, we don't split anymore.

We realize people have some good sides, some bad sides. Sometimes they are good, sometimes they are bad.

I don't have to be perfect in sex, I can just enjoy it. I mean, we stop splitting. We begin to see nuances of the world.

Narcissist doesn't have this.

So the cerebral narcissist, because he wants to be perfect, it also is a part of his grandiosity.

He focuses only on intellect and neglects everything else.

Not only sex, everything else.

So he is, for example, not likely to have a family, for example. Or if he has a family, it would be a very dysfunctional family because he will not invest in the family.

So coming back to sex, that's how it begins.

Gradually the narcissist looks around and he sees that he is a freak. That everyone is having sex and he is not having sex. That girls go after boys but not after him.

And so he begins to feel left out, he begins to feel freakish, he begins to feel inferior and inadequate.

And this challenges his grandiosity.

To restore his grandiosity, the narcissist creates an ideology of sexlessness.

Ideology of sexlessness, which says only superior people don't need sex. Sex is for wainshippers. Sex is for primitive people. Sex is animals have sex, you know. Sex is animalistic.

And I am well above that. My intellect took me away from all these great unwashed masses. I don't belong to the masses.

But this is, of course, a layer of ideology that is intended to cover the discomfort and humiliation of being in a totally sexualized environment, especially as a teenager.

And we call this entire situation cognitive dissonance. It's a cognitive dissonant reaction.

You feel dissonance, you feel discomfort, you feel conflict, and then you use your cognition, your thinking, to create some story, some narrative to make you feel good.

And the narcissist gets stuck with his story, the cerebral narcissist, gets stuck with his story for the rest of his life.

Gradually he becomes proud or protected. He becomes emotionally invested in this ideology, this story. He becomes proud of it. And he uses it, now he chooses asexuality.

To begin with, he didn't choose it, but now he chooses it.

So even when he finds himself in situations where he can have sex, he's offered sex, and so on, he would reject it. And he would not feel bad about it, but he would feel proud. He would feel that he had been tested and survived the test with flying colors. He had proved his mettle, he had proved how strong he is, how superior he is, and he would even brag about it, he would even go and tell everyone. I was with this gorgeous girl, she took off her clothes, I told her, you know, leave me alone. And he would brag about it, he would...

And of course, like everything else, there are social structures which are narcissistic. Most religions are narcissistic.

So there are social structures, and these social structures adopted asexuality as a form of...

So we find asexuality in religion, which we can discuss later.

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Women Narcissists

Male and female narcissists differ in the way they manifest their narcissism, with women focusing on their body and traditional gender roles. However, both genders are chauvinistic and conservative, as they depend on the opinions of those around them to maintain their false self. Women are more likely to seek therapy and use their children as a source of narcissistic supply, while men may view their children as a nuisance. Ultimately, there is no psychodynamic difference between male and female narcissists, as they both choose different sources of supply but are otherwise identical.

Cerebral Narcissist: Woman? What's That For?

The cerebral narcissist lacks the sexual energy and magnetism of the somatic narcissist. The author, a cerebral narcissist, describes himself as a deceptive package, an I being, a mental alien in an uncanny carnal outfit. He is exhausted by the rites of procreation and rarely copulates. Women are attracted to him but repelled by his essence, and he is turned into a gaping black hole, out to suck the vitality of everyone around him.

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Research has found no significant difference between the psychological makeup of a narcissist with homosexual preferences and a heterosexual narcissist. However, the self-definition of homosexuals is often based on their sexual identity, which can lead to somatic narcissism. Homosexual relations are highly narcissistic and autoerotic affairs, with the somatic narcissist directing their libido at their own body. Transsexuals may also exhibit narcissistic tendencies, with some seeking sex reassignment due to an idealized overvaluation of themselves and a sense of entitlement.

Why Cerebral Narcissist Chooses YOU

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Narcissists view women as objects and use them for both primary and secondary narcissistic supply. They fear emotional intimacy and treat women as property, similar to the mindset of European males in the 18th century. Narcissists frustrate women by teasing them and then leaving them, and they hold women in contempt, choosing submissive partners whom they disdain for being below their intellectual level. The narcissist projects his own behavior and traits onto women.

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The cerebral narcissist describes his pattern of selecting women inferior to him, engaging in brief periods of sex, and then becoming a recluse interested only in his studies. He sees his intimate partners as fulfilling roles such as admiring him, reminding him of his past accomplishments, and doing chores. He does not care what else they do with their time or with whom they spend it, but panics when they show signs of leaving him. He embarks on a charm offensive, but it is usually too late. The women feel that something is wrong with the relationship, but cannot place their finger on it.

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Somatic Narcissist: Not Sex, But Pursuit and Conquest

Somatic narcissists derive their narcissistic supply from the process of securing sex, rather than the act itself. They are often health freaks, bodybuilders, or hypochondriacs, and regard their bodies as objects to be sculpted and honed. The cerebral narcissist, on the other hand, is haughty and uses their intellect or knowledge to secure admiration. Both types are auto-erotic and prefer masturbation to interactive sex. It is a mistake to assume type constancy, as the narcissist swings between their dominant and recessive types.

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